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Posted By: pooja

Hello friends,

           According to me arrange marriages are better if we consider there will be 99% success in arrange marriages there will be more mutual understanding in between both of them. And the foremost thing is that there will be support of our parents. Most of the love marriages are unsuccessful so according to me arrange marriages are best.

Posted By: meenakshisekar

What pooja says is absolutely correct

         When u get a new bond through arranged marriage naturally there arises a demand for mutual understanding b's when u are entirely new to a group of people u will try to know people their likes, dislikes hence u will become more flexible and u could win their hearts so that in a difficult situation u'll get everybody’s help.
 

Posted By: sowmya571

Hello

            Well success of BOTH marriages depends on our self basically. If u finds a person whom u can feel comfortable to live with, be happy and secure in their presence then whatever love/arranged our marriage will be successful

            If LOVE marriage we tend to know ab them before itself and then start thinking of getting married. Well Love marriages fail because people tend to find faults in others /lack of understanding. Whatever but there also cases where relationship is maintained in wonderful manner

           In arranged marriage it becomes an obligation to live with the person. Adjust with them thru out our life n parents do help /guide us if therez a problem.  Thatz the major difference

            Well in both cases for a relationship to be healthy Understanding /Love /affection/ adjustment/ Responsibility is necessary ... above all

Parents who don’t agree for love marriage basically want us to be in better position /live happily. Considering /respecting them is also equally important.

Posted By: deeptisehgal

Hi all

           I feel in a love marriage you enter with a lot of expectations where these expectations have already reached a level and then you start expecting more than that. But in an arranged marriage you have the expectations but there is no particular level already set. You set those levels after marriage.

          I would rather say that there is no guarantee for any type of marrige. Even an arranged marriage might fail and love marriage be a hit or vice versa.

           According to me what one needs to be focused upon is the level of understanding between the two whether it be a love marriage or arranged marrige. Of course other parameters do affect apart understanding. It should be a matter of personal choice rather than a matter of debate.

Posted By: vikas_lion123

             As pooja and meenakshisekar said that love marriages don't last long and arranged marriages last longer I don't agree to this statement rather I would like to say that the success of a marriage is strongly dependent on the mutual understanding between the two persons as sowmya571 said, it depends on the compatibility of the two persons how well they can adjust with each other how much do they care about each other.

            What pooja and meenakshiskar is saying is based on the success of the arranged marriages is because of what seems from the outside that they are together, but in many cases its only the mutual adjustment and because they are ready from the first day to adjust with the other person and not understand them and end up there life in doing so. The most important aspect is here to be compatible as this enhances the outcome

            And lastly we have our responsibilities towards our parents so the marriage should be agreed by them and the compatibility of two persons who have to spend the life together should also be kept in mind,u can also consider this compatibility as love also.

            So what I can conclude on my side is that those one, which is love, and are then arranged

Posted By: hi2uday

Hi Frnds

            Well deeptisehgal what she said is entirely right because we cannot conclude love marriage is good and arranged marriage is fail or vice versa, this is mainly depends upon the understanding b/w eachother.how can we say that love marriage is leads to fail this is only because of the misunderstanding, even arranged marriages may also leads to fail when there is misunderstanding and also

vikas_lion123 he/she said

        "We have our responsibilities towards our parents so the marriage should be agreed by them and the compatibility of two persons who have to spend the life together should also be kept in mind, u can also consider this compatibility as love also."

Ya I support this point b4 taking any decision that must be agreed by our parents.

          At last my conclusion is whether it is a love/arranged marriage it depends on urs that will not affect on ur parents /children’s in future.

Posted By: keerthi

Hello every body,

            In my view there are advantages and disadvantages for both love and arranged marriages.

            But there are many cases where love marriages are failed when compared to arranged due to lack of trust, understanding between them and more over due to lack of support from their parents whenever a dispute arises.

            One more point here to note is now a days in most of the cases love marriages are between the people of same age group, as a result naturally ego problems arises which is one of the important causes for their failure.

            At the same time there are many cases where love marriages became a great success. So as soumya and vikas said the success or failure merely depends on their hands.

             Hence in my opinion it is better to opt for love marriage only if the both the persons have common ideas, common opinions and good understanding about each other and most important is their parent’s support.

Infact going against parents is nothing but one's selfishness.

Posted By: suriya

             Hai I always support for love marriages.  Because having a better half in out life is not a matter of buying vegetables in markets.  Because it is going to be our everlasting thing for our life.  So without knowing our life partner, we cant start our married life properly.  It will take time to understand our partner.  But I won’t support for some SILLY ONESIGHT LOVES.  Because that will not be a good love and that will be a love on infatuation only.  So a good love will blossom only when U will be a first friend and then lover. 

Posted By: manoj

Good afternoon to one and all,

       In my opinion love marriage is THE BEST. Before knowing to each other how would they marry? Before the marriage they both come to know each other very well. (Here they both must b sincere in love). In these cases no matter of ego feelings.

They know each other's likes, dislikes.

They have clear idea about their future.

Most of the love marriages are held in now-a- days in the age of 25 to 30. They both are well matured in this time, and they are in a position to take right decision.

So love marriages are THE BEST.
 

Posted By: rajkannan

Good Even all my friends

           I appreciate ur views. I would like adding some extra color to the existing things. Right now we are all respect our family, only few members can follow their own plan. Most of us are following on the basis of our family. My suggestion arranged marriage is best coz our family fully involved in that.

Thanks for this oppournity

Posted By: meera

             I prefer love with arranged marriage. In love marriage there is a chance for them to know abt each other their likes, dislikes etc. Bcos life is not a game to handover it to an unknown person. Most of the marriages end up in divorce due to misunderstanding. In love marriage we can know abt our better half well. Most love marriage is intercast marriage so it strengthens the relationship among people with various castes. The main point is by love marriage, dowry culture can be entirely destroyed from its root.

Posted By: jksaviyo

Hi,

Why we couldn’t think like- fist LOVE and understand, then arrange the marriage in our traditional way.

Don’t miss use this flavor ‘LOVE and understand’ for sex.

Please don’t forget one thing; Indian moral is wonderful in the world.  That we will realize it when we will mess with different country’s culture.

Posted By: vikram_ls

Its as good as asking for suicide is Better or Murder.

But I would like to go with arranged marriage. Bcoz if u loves a girl and want to marry her against the family, then u will loose the 3-5 members love in place of single love. i.e. with ur girl.
 

Posted By: jayanth

 Hai everybody,

            I would always vote to love marriage bcoz; it’s you and that girl who are going to be involved in that relationship. None other than the two will be able to understand the feelings, so it’s better to go by ur wish. I believe that we live only once, so we must live on our own feelings. So I conclude that love marriage is the smart decision, but u must make others accept it i.e.) make Ur parents accept it.

Posted By: radhichmca

Hi, friends

          I am giving support to Arranged Marriags.bcaz our parents bought up us with what we want, i.e they gave every thing to us. They know what personality we r.they only know what we like n what we doesn't like n how we behave at that situation.thy only will bring good husband to us.

        Friend r lover stay with us for some time. Every body behaves well for some time. At that time they don’t under stand what we r, every one looking good by talking for some time.

         If they marry in future thy stay together at that time once behavior may no like by other one. They r going for divorce.

          Our parent sees family background, so we can estimate behavior of other.

Posted By: cishawsharma

Well

In my opinion I feel that mutual understanding and maturity level of both the partners makes a blissful marriage.

I don’t think we can predict a human being quality or mentality in a year or two. I wonder if we do PhD on human beings that will be a fiasco.

So knowing a person for two or three years and doesn’t mean that we know everything about that person. At the same time marrying a person with parents wish and will also may end up in divorce.

So I want to conclude it by giving a simple suggestion that is

Mutual respect, not pointing out the loopholes of each other, not having selfish mentality, not having any prejudices, and ego will make a successful marriage.

Or just learn or imitate our elders.